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TeeJay · 01 May 09 :: 15:28

Can you get rid of him? Sounds like he's going to be a major pain in the neck, no matter what you do...

-TeeJay

TheCentralScrutinizer · 01 May 09 :: 15:31

That sucks. It's awfully hard to live with someone, period. Let alone a complete jerk. Maybe he'll be so unhappy he'll move on. I've had lots of roommates, but only one bad one. She left after 4 months, thank God. Well, there was the time my buddy Dave and I tried to share a house. I kicked him out after 4 months because he lost his job and couldn't pay his share.

I could really use a roommate right now, but after Casey left a few years ago, I got used to living on my own again. I don't wanna live with anyone else. So I just stay flat broke all the time. It's a trade-off.

TeeJay · 01 May 09 :: 15:43

I find it kinda curious that in the US it seems to be a very common thing to have a roommate when you're past the age of, say, 25. Over here you usually only live with roommates when you study at university because that's usually the time where people don't have enough money to afford their own place. Once (single) people get a job, they usually try to find an apartment where they can live on their own. Obviously, if you have a partner, you wanna move in with him/her (but not share your house/apartment with anyone else). I'm trying to think whether any of my single friends lives with a roommate, and I'm coming up empty.

I feel like Deb, though. I've lived on my own ever since 2002, and I don't wanna go back to having a roommate. The one I had at university was nice enough, but it wasn't like we were close friends. We got along, but only because I shut up way too often about things that kept annoying me (like her never doing the dishes or her having loud sex with her boyfriend waking me up in the middle of the night). Getting my own place where I could do what I wanted when I wanted it was bliss. I think the only way I'd wanna live with someone again is living with a boyfriend or husband.

-TeeJay

TheCentralScrutinizer · 01 May 09 :: 16:14

Yeah, I hope I never have to have a roommate again, unless it's a significant other. It's just that after 8 years Bushworld, no one can afford ANYTHING. Real wages have actually fallen in the US as prices have risen. In other words, his rich buddies looted the treasury and bankrupted everyne. All while enjoying a hefty tax cut as the rest of us stagnated, or worse, lost our jobs. Meanwhile, minimum wage had not risen in something like 15 years. It's despicable what they did to this country. And it's going to take YEARS to recover from it.

The only reason I can afford my house is because my landlord is such a good guy. He could easily rent it for much more, but he likes having just me in there, rather than say a family. I'm not likely to do as much damage. The only thing I'll leave him with if I ever move out is ruined carpet because of Lacey's illness.

magicalturkey · 01 May 09 :: 16:19

I'm with you guys... I'll only move in with a boyfriend/husband and I don't think I'd like living on my own. So basically I'm never leaving my mom's house. I always joke with my friends that I can never rent an apartment with any of them, because one of us won't make it out alive.

TeeJay · 01 May 09 :: 16:31

As much as I love my parents, I was glad to finally move out of their house at age 25. Not because they're horrible or anything. It just felt liberating to not always have someone there to tell you to do your chores or to make you feel guilty because you spent way too much time in front of the computer.

-TeeJay

TheCentralScrutinizer · 01 May 09 :: 16:37

I left home at 22. And only because my mom moved my "derelict" uncle in to keep him off the streets. We had no bedroom for him in that tiny house so he bunked down in the dining room. And smoked like a stack. I left as soon as I could and moved in with two friends from high school. Fortunately, they moved out of that apartment fairly quickly and I moved another friend in. We stayed there for a year until she married some toothless hillbilly she'd only known for three weeks and moved out.

TheCentralScrutinizer · 02 May 09 :: 01:25

Good advice...

Eight Tips For Conquering Anger And Irritability
Gretchen Rubin
Posted April 30, 2009 | 09:33 AM (EST)
Hah. It's really quite preposterous for me to offer up a tips list on this subject. A tendency to fly off the handle is one of my most disagreeable and persistent traits, and something I battle with - largely unsuccessfully - every day. For me, anger is the most tempting of the seven deadly sins. At best, you could describe me as "edgy."
This list shows the strategies I try to use to keep myself patient and mild-mannered, but I certainly can't claim that they've been wholly successful. I still lose my temper far too often; however, I do think I'm doing a better job than I would be if I weren't following these tips:
1. Pay attention to my body. Being too cold, too hot, and especially being too hungry, makes me far more irritable.
2. Don't drink. I basically gave up drinking because alcohol makes me so belligerent.
3. Acknowledge the reality of other people's feelings (usually this arises with my husband or daughters). Instead of snapping back answers like "I don't want to hear a lot of whining" or "It's not that big a deal," I try to show that I understand what someone is saying.
4. Be realistic. For instance, I often get irritated when someone interrupts me when I'm reading -- but I should know better than to try to read the newspaper during my daughters' Saturday morning breakfast. Of course I'm going to get interrupted.
5. Don't expect praise or appreciation. I often feel irritated when someone (usually my husband) doesn't notice and praise some effort on my part. For example, when I went out of town last week, I got my older daughter completely organized for a field trip before I left. I snapped at my husband because he didn't appreciate this Herculean accomplishment on my part.
6. Squelch my reaction. Not expressing anger often allows it to dissipate. I have trouble with this in person, but often manage to do it if it involves email; the deliberate effort of writing an irritated email often gives me the opportunity to decide not to send it. I find it tougher to bite back an angry retort -- but I'm working on it. When I can manage, acting the way I want to feel always helps me to change my feelings.
7. Make a joke. Okay, some of these strategies are more fantasy than reality, but on the rare occasion when I do manage to make a joke during a moment of irritation, it works beautifully to lighten the mood.
8. Try not to be defensive. Many of my most harsh reactions are triggered by some kind of accusation - that I did something wrong, that I did something rude, that I screwed up in some way. If I can admit to fault, or let it go, I can lighten my anger. My anger is tied to my pride, and pride is something I've been thinking a lot about lately.
In my case, as this list shows, anger stems from a tendency toward perfectionism. I want to control things, have events unfold exactly as I want, have people behave exactly as I direct, and get lots of credit for everything I do. Surprise! That's not how the world works.
What strategies have I missed? What helps you defuse anger and irritability? I need more help!

TheCentralScrutinizer · 02 May 09 :: 03:24

That dude just needs to live alone, in a quiet house in a quiet neighborhood. As far away from normal people as possible.

BiggestChrisMarquetteFan · 02 May 09 :: 04:00

Sorry to hear about that ignorant guy, Illinois. He needs to live out in the middle of nowhere.

TheCentralScrutinizer · 02 May 09 :: 19:52

Yeah, that might work.

TheCentralScrutinizer · 02 May 09 :: 20:04

I LOVE this story and finally there's a picture...

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/odd_chihuahua_touchdown

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Cuuuuute!

domesticelefant · 03 May 09 :: 20:29

I saw a chihuahua today at the Spring Festival in Stuttgart, but it wasn't as cute as that one.

Other question: Anyone uses paypal around here?

TeeJay · 03 May 09 :: 20:31

I use PayPal occasionally, why?

-TeeJay

TheCentralScrutinizer · 03 May 09 :: 20:33

I do too.

domesticelefant · 03 May 09 :: 20:34

Because I thought about joining to be able to buy from that shop you told me about some time ago and they say they only accept payment via credit card (which I can't) and paypal, but with paypal, you have to wire them US-Dollars and since I don't really know how paypal works and wasn'ta ble to get that information from their website I know want to know if I can pay US-Dollars from my German Euro bank account, too.

TeeJay · 03 May 09 :: 22:07

They take the money from my bank account directly, there is no credit card involved. And, yes, you can pay in US dollars. Basically, you set up an account and then you need to verify your account by wiring something like a cent to your PayPal account or something. I don't remember the details, it's a long time ago that I set it up. If you wanna send someone money, you need their e-mail address that they use for their PayPal account. It's not that difficult to use, once you've set up an account.

-TeeJay

Simon · 04 May 09 :: 00:17

I've had such a messed up weekend. Been avoiding my brother all day. :angry:

TheCentralScrutinizer · 04 May 09 :: 01:56

You guys all make me glad I don't have any real siblings. I only have a half brother and three step-siblings. I never lived with any of them. So many of you have aggravating sibs. Growing up as an only child doesn't seem so bad.

BiggestChrisMarquetteFan · 04 May 09 :: 05:28

I'm an only child too and I love it!

TeeJay · 04 May 09 :: 08:58

Spoiled only child here too.

-TeeJay

CappuGirl · 04 May 09 :: 14:34

You lucky bastards, only childs. My siblings were all awful growing up. My youngest little brother was always beating me up and pulling hair because he knew I wouldn't hit someone smaller than me. My older little brother got some anger management issues and he was strong! When he got pissed, he'd wrestle until I cried. My sisters were more verbal. The reason my youngest brother was the worst bully, was because he was little the other brother and my younger big sis were always picking on him...There's sibling rivalry for ya! My little brothers really got what they were asking for when they grew passed me in their teens. I still wouldn't hurt them... too bad. But I had this hand thing I did that tamed them pretty fast. lol. And I always tickled them in revenge! They hated that! They were a whole two ours off my back after I tickled them.

I went out for the night last thursday. Crappy time at the club but when I walked home I found this guy hugging the railing and I just had to help him. I could use the company myself too. So I took his arm and chatted with him all the way to his building. Got a good vibe from him so i wasn't scared of him. Had a great talk with him. Went home smiling. People are calling me crazy now for walking out alone at night. Isn't such a big deal here...

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TheCentralScrutinizer · 04 May 09 :: 18:14

Joe sang Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get It On" to Cybill Shepherd Saturday night. No, really. This is not a joke. It was at the HRC dinner. Cybill also outed her daughter at the event. Wow.

magicalturkey · 05 May 09 :: 03:33

I officially have found the stupidest way ever to get injured. I was standing on the couch trying to fix the window blinds, my foot slipped down the back of the couch. When I stepped off the couch, my foot was stuck... and now my ankle is sprained and my toe's broken.

TheCentralScrutinizer · 05 May 09 :: 03:42

Holy crap! Your toe's really broken? Which one?

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